The space

The Space....

Over the years relationship and family bonding have taken various dimensions .

Time is the main factor... 

Technology is

 another..

   There was a time when everyone were together in a single house with the eldest being the Head and everyone obeying his orders.He was the Moothapillai or Karanavar ..The whole expenditure was looked after by him and there were paddy coconuts, tamarind plantain fruits and domestic vegetables grown in the cultivable land .

       

Education brought  better job opportunities and most of them  were  governent jobs.  

Transfer of job made people move  from their native  villages. Most of the elder  brothers took the family responsibilty.Holidays were most awaited .. All meeting during a family function or a temple celebration..

     

The fast moving world has now made people move to Cosmopolitan cities..

    The software companies made accesibilty to foreign countries creating  nuclear families.Many families have ended up with a single child.Balancing  profession with family ended up with  a lot of confusions and uncertainty of life too  ..

       

Now its a new phase ..

If marriage is  such a complication (where the rate of divorces have drastically increased out of surplus money and lack of understanding) belief in marriages has become a matter of dispute .

Here comes the Space ... 

I have mentioned ..

The space that belongs to each one . They are like individual circles with  no intersection.Its a life, not poking or interfering in one another's matter.

           

 No doubt most of the domestic issues arise due to interference only .

To be honest we should not deny this fact. Generation gap is a main reason for all disputes.

Every trouble that shoots  is the conflict of the traditon  with the modern  , with the rational with the superstitious and  with the formal with the casual ... 

      Most of the people are tied to work that demands goal setting target achievement , updation and appraisal.Hence they have no time to share and explain things .

    Change has to be accepted. 

If one learns to go with the flow of life  like a pebble that  is carried away by the ebb and flow of  water  he can be refined and polished. 

    Life has changed its dimensions. 

The next generation is more brainy. There is no space for melodrama , sentiment , tears and emotions .

They call a spade a spade . They dont have time for all the .." Once  upon a time... or The days when we were ... etc etc.

    

Be happy if your children are good to you .. You are  blessed..

Respect their "space"

 Don't get into it...

  If you feel that you have to live a peaceful life in your later years...

Just learn  ..not to poke into other's Space ..

May be its your better half.. or your children ..or your brothers and sisters...

Our ancestors have beautifully quoted...

தள்ளாமையில்

தாமரை தடாக

இலையின் நீர் 

போல்

பட்டும் படாத

பற்றற்ற வாழ்க்கை

வாழ பழகி கொள்...

This is the Space ....I have quoted..

Space yourself from other's space...

Find a cool space to live ...

relaxed and peaceful...

Am I right?